It is definitely something I would get in debates over. It infuriates me the way women let everything hang out and then look totally shocked when men come on to them. Ladies, it's not rocket science! If you are going to show them the goods, they are going to get excited over it! It is sad that women take the thing that made men who they are and then use it against them.
And not only would I talk about dress, but attitude. One of the things that has always stuck in my head about the Bill Gothard seminars I went to as a young adult is this: People defraud one another. You flirt, tease, and then leave. It leaves a hole inside of them that God wants us to fill with sex. The right kind. But when it is offered beforehand, it creates frustration.
I love what Michelle Duggar calls it- modern modest. You can look great but still hold true to your Christian example.
I daydream sometimes about my book becoming a best seller, becoming famous, and being asked to do conferences.
This is how I would open this topic of purity:
I would walk on stage. Dressed in a simple pants suit somewhat low cut, but still modest, and hair free falling down my back. I would smile at my audience and say, "Good evening, tonight we will be talking about......" and then I would turn my back on my watchers. I would then whip my hair into a very tight bun, button up my jacket to where it had the appearance of a turtle neck, and lower my glasses onto the edge of my nose, turn and say (in a very old maiden-ish voice)......"sexual purity!"
I hope they would laugh. I know I do when I think about it. It's because that is the opinion of the world when it comes to that topic. They don't put the modest with the beautiful. If you are modest you are prudish. You are goody-goody. You are just "a great personality..."
I hope I am one of the women that prove them wrong.
SCREWS:
* DON'T flaunt or flirt. Save it for your mate. I regret that so much.
*DON'T keep things that give off that spirit. It's hard to not want to "dress to attract" when you have PEOPLE magazine staring at you.
*DON'T depend on your sight alone to tell you if you are modest or not. Recruit the help of a male. Husband, brother, cousin, friend. They have the outside track.
DIAMONDS:
*DO focus on becoming attractive the right way. Your love, your smile, your sweet spirit. It makes you much more attractive than some cleavage and a tight skirt. You will also attract the right kind of men. Do you want your husband only loving you for the show that you put on?
*DO stand up for your fellow man. If you see a female heading your way that has that look, help them avert their eyes. I have had males in my life thank me for it. Trust me, it will make a huge statement of your love for them.
